Showing posts with label baby. Show all posts
Showing posts with label baby. Show all posts

Friday, December 14, 2012

The Sling Diaries: Discovery

This week we find ourselves in Arizona for a family wedding. We've spent the past few days taking in the beautiful views, hiking in Sedona, star gazing, and spending time with family in Phoenix


 In Ferris’s short 18 month life, he has now visited 20 states (+DC!) 
Ferris’s states: Arizona, Connecticut, Delaware, Florida, Georgia, Iowa, Maine, Maryland, Massachusetts, Minnesota, New Hampshire, New Jersey, New York, North Carolina, Pennsylvania, Rhode Island, South Carolina, South Dakota, Virginia, West Virginia
We are on a mission to visit all 50 states – a goal partly driven by sentiment and partly driven by our love of gimmicks. We began this endeavor in 2010, when we celebrated our fifth anniversary in Vermont. Nick’s grandpa Ted was very ill, and he had visited 49 states – every one but Vermont. He got our postcard, which served as his honorary visit, one week before he passed away. 

There is the classic Proust quote often etched onto coffee mugs and refrigerator magnets: “The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes.” 

Who am I to argue with Proust? A mere traveler. 

I don’t believe you can develop new eyes without seeking new landscapes.  I believe each time you leave your bubble of culture, you gain context that you couldn’t gain any other way.  I believe you can’t discover yourself without discovering others.

At this phase of his life, Ferris’s radar is tuned to doggies, trees, cars, latte foam, The Lumineers. Surely Ferris won’t remember hiking around Bell Rock in Sedona, visiting a plantation in Charleston, or exploring an art festival in Maine. But my sincere hope is that these experiences will paint portraits of a wide world and plant seeds of possibility for his future. I want his heart to be guided by the elusive openness to discovery. Even if in the end, he winds up where he started.

Ferris and I share Sakura Bloom's Essential Silk Sling in Licorice/Amalfi
Can you believe we're halfway through The Sling Diaries?

Tuesday, November 20, 2012


What do you do with a toddler who loves remotes and a mama who likes to take pictures?

Friday, November 16, 2012

The Sling Diaries: Connection

Tonight I’m flying back to New York for the first time since we moved here. Although I’ll visit some of my favorite places, it won’t be the same, because it’s no longer home. I long to bring Ferris with me, to see if he flickers with recognition when the subway rumbles or when he sees his baby handprints on the wall of his old daycare. But for this short birthday trip, I long to sleep past 5 am even more.

Priorities aren’t as simple anymore.

Just about every neighborhood in the city has been marked with memories of his babyhood; how sad I will be when I see these places without him. We’d planned to stay in New York until private school tuition forced our hand, but to my surprise, I wanted Ferris to have roots and have a connection with our friends and families. The importance of making these lifetime connections outweighed all that we left behind.

But nobody said letting go would be easy. I especially miss our commute together on the subway and the unexpected interactions Ferris inspired in New Yorkers. I loved bringing him along on my daily routines, as they slowly became our daily routines. Every mundane errand became a fun adventure when I had Ferris with me. These days we ride in the car as a family and listen to music on our way to work. But, oh, the damned car seat. It's only inches away, but it feels like miles to me. 

When I take any excuse to bring the sling, he snuggles, giggles, bites (molars!), puts his hand down my shirt, asks for crackers, or "down down" complete with finger gestures. Our New York Ferris wasn't so spunky. As he develops, so do our connections to this place. To space, to impromptu family gatherings, to the entourage that joined us for his first haircut, to the people who will share these fond times with us.

Ferris and I share the Sakura Bloom Essential Linen Sling in Driftwood/Mint

Wednesday, November 14, 2012

Invincible Summer

How is this happening?! 70, then snow, then 50. Not that we're complaining.

Wednesday, October 31, 2012

Happy Halloween from...

Zeus! I am proud to say I even sewed the white pants for his costume. Poor craftsmanship, but it got the job done. I can't believe it's been a year since his first Halloween. Oh my heart.

We tried on the costume at home, and Ferris promptly ripped off his head piece and ignored his lightning bolt. By the time we took him to the Zoo for some light trick or treating, he did pretty well! Whenever you take him out of his car seat, he pops his head out with wonder and optimism. Usually the showman in him outweighs any crankiness. (Except for seeing fully costumed people with big fake heads. He looked terrified and said, "ALL DONE!") He loved getting a Fruity Pebble version of a Rice Krispy bar and said "Mo!Mo!Mo!" He is talking so much more - phone, cracker, doggy (reindeer also = doggy), mine, NYOH! Tonight we'll try out the costume again and let him hand out candy to his new neighborhood friends.

Head butts!

Wednesday, October 24, 2012

The Sling Diaries: Delight

Delight was my biggest surprise. 



When you’re pregnant, warnings abound. So I listened to the voices of experience who told me, "When the baby is born, it will be horrible. The babies think that days are nights and nights are days, and there aren’t any tricks that will fix it. You just have to wait out that first month.”

But horrible never happened. It was more like an uber emotional, better funded version of college. That first month, our little family had 11PM Conan dates, Dunkin Donuts for breakfast, afternoon naps, and glasses of champagne while we watched Adventures in Babysitting at God knows what time. Nobody told me how freeing it would be to let go of day and night. Clocks and calendars cause so much stress! The world stopped for us in those early days and I had never been so happy.

And then Ferris fell in love with the world. Trees, so interesting! Bearded men on the subway, so funny! Newman’s puffy tail, so soft! Frozen yogurt, so yummy! Being chased, so scary! I never knew how much I'd truly enjoy holding, wearing, feeding, comforting, learning, observing him. Motherhood felt nothing like the self-sacrifice I'd anticipated.

For a boy who was just a baby, fall is a primal and sensory season. Each day is a test of his lungs and limbs. At the pumpkin patch, he ran to see the horses and cats (of course), knocked over a sign, took a pumpkin from a little girl and then handed it back with great fanfare.

When he needs a break from his newfound independence, he cuddles me in the sling. We walk and dance together. Warm and safe, our bodies reminisce.

Ferris and I share Sakura Bloom's Essential Silk Sling in Licorice/Amalfi.

Wednesday, October 3, 2012

Oh, the places.

When summer ends, it's especially bittersweet for me. Last year, it was moving on from the season of Ferris's birth, and this year moving on from the novelty of so many life changes. Next summer he'll be expressing full sentences and who knows what else. Summer is my timekeeper now.

And now it's fall, more beautiful than I remember. Although in Minnesota, fall is abbreviated in favor of winter. We had fun walking around our neighborhood, which is full of colorful trees. And random cats who decided to join the boys for a picture (literally just walked over to them as I started to take photos!)

We spent a weekend in Des Moines and it was so great to get Ferris together with his cousin Zoey. In the past she was pretty aggressive, but she's softening with age. She wavered between kissing and a cold shoulder, which is much more gentle than their past encounters. They spent hilariously awkward time running around in crooked lines around the Des Moines sculpture park.

Oh, Ferris. So cute these days, in a distinctively not baby way. He uses so much sign language, and grabs things out of the cupboard, and seems so curious and finally started to say "mama." For ages, he would say "dada" just to mess with me and then laugh in my face.

He was reading a book before bed and I really wanted to get a picture. Like most full on photo ops, he was not having any of it, so of course the best picture of them all is when he threw the book in the middle of my shot. He looks like a frat boy in this shirt, I miss onesies.
And that was that.

Friday, August 31, 2012

In the interest of updating...

Can't believe these two will survive without me for a short while. Or that I will survive without them.

Wednesday, August 15, 2012

Who's on first?

Nearly 3 months to cover, but it all can be covered by a pretty simple theme! It's all new! New house, new car, new jobs, new habits, new tricks.

FIRST HOUSE!! We moved from NYC directly to a hotel until closing, a little reminiscent of our last big move. But hey, at least we had jobs lined up this time! I had to decide whether to buy this house without Nick getting to actually see it, which was obviously a little nuts, but avoided having to move into an apartment and blah blah blah all over again. It worked out so well! The location is perfect, and our new neighbor mowed our lawn for us the day we moved in. Score! I thought that 2 months in to home ownership, pictures would be hung and everything would be ticked and tied. Welp, I was wrong about that. Between work and play and grilling (!), it just takes awhile to get everything pulled together. But we're getting there! It's fun to start completely anew, and fill a blank slate with the ideas that have been floating in my head. Less fun to paint every room, some of them twice.

FIRST CRIB, and so many visitors who are happy we moved close!

FIRST PLAYROOM! Ferris's and Newman's watchpoint.

Just being adorbs.

As far as demanding and hand waving goes, he's really ramping things up. Our sweet baby boy now collapses into tears if his mama leaves or he sees a phone (which we rarely let him touch.)
Should we assume he's actually reading the back of the cereal box?

OH, and Ferris's FIRST FAIR! Just like his mama, he was pretty nonplussed.
Let's be honest, the fair is kinda lame.

But sunglasses are not lame.

And in case you don't already know, FIRST STEPS! Ferris started walking about a month and a half ago (13 months old) and went from tentative steps to zooming around. Inexplicably, he recently started spinning around in slow circles until he's too dizzy to stand.

A video of Ferris walking, a little bit ditzy from Tylenol

As you can see, we've been busy.

Monday, June 11, 2012


Happy birthday to our Ferris! Despite living out of a hotel at the moment, of course we made time for a party! It was so great for Ferris to be surrounded by people who have loved him from afar over this past year. 

 I was totally inspired by this photographer named Edward Mapplethorpe, who takes brilliant portraits of one year old babies. Ferris would be such a perfect model for him! But since we aren't in the neighborhood of commissioning five figure baby portraits, I had to make do with a hotel chair, a pillow case backdrop, and my new camera. Welcome to my studio! I'm so excited that next week we'll be in our very own house and can hang these up! I was taking pictures of him when he randomly decided to start pulling on his skin and studying it. Hilarious.

And, now for the party. The very loose theme was "milk" since the entire first year is all about milk, getting milk, enough milk, pumping milk, spilled milk, spit up milk, drink your milk! This manifested itself in tons of vintage milk jars filled with flowers from my grandma's garden and a few cows. Ferris ate his cake in a highchair from my grandma's babyhood, and we put the gifts in a crib from my grandpa's babyhood. Good enough theme! The birthday boy was the cleanest cake eater ever. He took a few bites, and sucked on the edge of the cake a couple of times. That was about it. And then he randomly started crying- I think because he didn't understand why everyone was starting at him with expectant eyes. Thanks to all of our family and friends for making it such a fun day!





And my present to him, another little video project chronicling his first year....