Friday, November 16, 2012

The Sling Diaries: Connection




Tonight I’m flying back to New York for the first time since we moved here. Although I’ll visit some of my favorite places, it won’t be the same, because it’s no longer home. I long to bring Ferris with me, to see if he flickers with recognition when the subway rumbles or when he sees his baby handprints on the wall of his old daycare. But for this short birthday trip, I long to sleep past 5 am even more.

Priorities aren’t as simple anymore.

 
Just about every neighborhood in the city has been marked with memories of his babyhood; how sad I will be when I see these places without him. We’d planned to stay in New York until private school tuition forced our hand, but to my surprise, I wanted Ferris to have roots and have a connection with our friends and families. The importance of making these lifetime connections outweighed all that we left behind.

 
But nobody said letting go would be easy. I especially miss our commute together on the subway and the unexpected interactions Ferris inspired in New Yorkers. I loved bringing him along on my daily routines, as they slowly became our daily routines. Every mundane errand became a fun adventure when I had Ferris with me. These days we ride in the car as a family and listen to music on our way to work. But, oh, the damned car seat. It's only inches away, but it feels like miles to me. 



When I take any excuse to bring the sling, he snuggles, giggles, bites (molars!), puts his hand down my shirt, asks for crackers, or "down down" complete with finger gestures. Our New York Ferris wasn't so spunky. As he develops, so do our connections to this place. To space, to impromptu family gatherings, to the entourage that joined us for his first haircut, to the people who will share these fond times with us.



Ferris and I share the Sakura Bloom Essential Linen Sling in Driftwood/Mint


Wednesday, November 14, 2012

Invincible Summer

How is this happening?! 70, then snow, then 50. Not that we're complaining.




Wednesday, October 31, 2012

Happy Halloween from...

Zeus! I am proud to say I even sewed the white pants for his costume. Poor craftsmanship, but it got the job done. I can't believe it's been a year since his first Halloween. Oh my heart.

We tried on the costume at home, and Ferris promptly ripped off his head piece and ignored his lightning bolt. By the time we took him to the Zoo for some light trick or treating, he did pretty well! Whenever you take him out of his car seat, he pops his head out with wonder and optimism. Usually the showman in him outweighs any crankiness. (Except for seeing fully costumed people with big fake heads. He looked terrified and said, "ALL DONE!") He loved getting a Fruity Pebble version of a Rice Krispy bar and said "Mo!Mo!Mo!" He is talking so much more - phone, cracker, doggy (reindeer also = doggy), mine, NYOH! Tonight we'll try out the costume again and let him hand out candy to his new neighborhood friends.

Head butts!




Monday, October 29, 2012

Quiet Days

I just finished a rough week. Last Saturday Ferris was in the ER with an ear infection, and then I got a horrible cold that's lasted more than a week. Despite 2 (going on 3) sick days and a pharmaceutical shopping spree, my throat still feels like steak tartare. And today my eyes were diagnosed with a cold so I have to wear glasses and use special drops. My eyes! Yet somehow being home alone feels so indulgent. To be able to rest, and leave the house only for medicine and coffee.






Wednesday, October 24, 2012

The Sling Diaries: Delight

Delight was my biggest surprise. 

 

 


When you’re pregnant, warnings abound. So I listened to the voices of experience who told me, "When the baby is born, it will be horrible. The babies think that days are nights and nights are days, and there aren’t any tricks that will fix it. You just have to wait out that first month.”

But horrible never happened. It was more like an uber emotional, better funded version of college. That first month, our little family had 11PM Conan dates, Dunkin Donuts for breakfast, afternoon naps, and glasses of champagne while we watched Adventures in Babysitting at God knows what time. Nobody told me how freeing it would be to let go of day and night. Clocks and calendars cause so much stress! The world stopped for us in those early days and I had never been so happy.

And then Ferris fell in love with the world. Trees, so interesting! Bearded men on the subway, so funny! Newman’s puffy tail, so soft! Frozen yogurt, so yummy! Being chased, so scary! I never knew how much I'd truly enjoy holding, wearing, feeding, comforting, learning, observing him. Motherhood felt nothing like the self-sacrifice I'd anticipated.

For a boy who was just a baby, fall is a primal and sensory season. Each day is a test of his lungs and limbs. At the pumpkin patch, he ran to see the horses and cats (of course), knocked over a sign, took a pumpkin from a little girl and then handed it back with great fanfare.

When he needs a break from his newfound independence, he cuddles me in the sling. We walk and dance together. Warm and safe, our bodies reminisce.







Ferris and I share Sakura Bloom's Essential Silk Sling in Licorice/Amalfi.

Monday, October 8, 2012

Changing Seasons



I'm excited to announce that Ferris and I are participating in a fun new blog project! 

The Sling Diaries is a collaboration between Sakura Bloom slings and 15 mamas, each with a unique voice and a common love of babywearing. For each of the next six months, we'll all be posting on a theme that celebrates babywearing. I'm so honored to be a part of this community, and thrilled for the chance to tell our story. Not to mention it's a great motivator to actually be in the photos with Ferris!

You can follow along and meet all of the other lovely families at Marvelous Kiddo. She is giving away the 15th and final spot, so if you're interested leave a comment on her blog and a lucky winner will be chosen on Wednesday!

I can't wait to post my first diary later this month! In the meantime, you can follow the Sling Diaries on Pinterest, Facebook, Tumblr; and of course, keep an eye on Marvelous Kiddo for updates and giveaways throughout the series!

Wednesday, October 3, 2012

Oh, the places.

When summer ends, it's especially bittersweet for me. Last year, it was moving on from the season of Ferris's birth, and this year moving on from the novelty of so many life changes. Next summer he'll be expressing full sentences and who knows what else. Summer is my timekeeper now.

And now it's fall, more beautiful than I remember. Although in Minnesota, fall is abbreviated in favor of winter. We had fun walking around our neighborhood, which is full of colorful trees. And random cats who decided to join the boys for a picture (literally just walked over to them as I started to take photos!)


We spent a weekend in Des Moines and it was so great to get Ferris together with his cousin Zoey. In the past she was pretty aggressive, but she's softening with age. She wavered between kissing and a cold shoulder, which is much more gentle than their past encounters. They spent hilariously awkward time running around in crooked lines around the Des Moines sculpture park.

Oh, Ferris. So cute these days, in a distinctively not baby way. He uses so much sign language, and grabs things out of the cupboard, and seems so curious and finally started to say "mama." For ages, he would say "dada" just to mess with me and then laugh in my face.

He was reading a book before bed and I really wanted to get a picture. Like most full on photo ops, he was not having any of it, so of course the best picture of them all is when he threw the book in the middle of my shot. He looks like a frat boy in this shirt, I miss onesies.
 
And that was that.

Sunday, September 23, 2012

Broads abroad

I recently got back from a solo (sans Nick and Ferris) trip to London and Dublin. My cousin Chloe had an internship in London, so a few of us decided to keep her company during her last week. Prior to this trip I had only been away from Ferris two times - one night in a hotel to get some sleep, and one time finding our house in Minneapolis. Is it strange that a week of uninterrupted sleep was a huge draw for this trip?

I've never been a huge fan of London. I can't put my finger on why, but this about sums it up:
Taken in our hotel, the clusterF that is London.

But of course I had fun anyways!
London Eye, and taking comedic advantage of a broken table

We spent some time doing some touristy things like the London Eye and the nearby swings. But a lot of our time was spent just wandering around Tate Modern, finding Banksy's artwork, and falling madly in love with Liberty of London.

After a few days in London, Carrissa, Chloe and I took a cheap flight to Dublin. I absolutely loved it, and envisioned Ferris attending Trinity College someday. The people were kind, friendly, and quick-witted. It's the kind of place where you ask for sauce on the side and somebody replies, "the right or the left?"
 

First stop (urm, really, first thing we did!) was tour the Guinness brewery. Yada, yada, hops and water from the river Liffey, and a beer on the seventh floor with a panoramic view of Dublin.


While Carrissa stayed in Dublin to do her thang, Chloe and I took a day tour through Wicklow, the Irish countryside just south of Dublin. Our bus driver served us a shot of Jameson within the first hour. Hooray for getting drunk before noon! Maybe it's no coincidence that my favorite places have this in common?

Not to mention the incredible views.


Friday, August 31, 2012

In the interest of updating...

Can't believe these two will survive without me for a short while. Or that I will survive without them.

Wednesday, August 15, 2012

Who's on first?

Nearly 3 months to cover, but it all can be covered by a pretty simple theme! It's all new! New house, new car, new jobs, new habits, new tricks.

FIRST HOUSE!! We moved from NYC directly to a hotel until closing, a little reminiscent of our last big move. But hey, at least we had jobs lined up this time! I had to decide whether to buy this house without Nick getting to actually see it, which was obviously a little nuts, but avoided having to move into an apartment and blah blah blah all over again. It worked out so well! The location is perfect, and our new neighbor mowed our lawn for us the day we moved in. Score! I thought that 2 months in to home ownership, pictures would be hung and everything would be ticked and tied. Welp, I was wrong about that. Between work and play and grilling (!), it just takes awhile to get everything pulled together. But we're getting there! It's fun to start completely anew, and fill a blank slate with the ideas that have been floating in my head. Less fun to paint every room, some of them twice.


FIRST CRIB, and so many visitors who are happy we moved close!
  

FIRST PLAYROOM! Ferris's and Newman's watchpoint.


Just being adorbs.


FIRST CHAIR. 
As far as demanding and hand waving goes, he's really ramping things up. Our sweet baby boy now collapses into tears if his mama leaves or he sees a phone (which we rarely let him touch.)
Should we assume he's actually reading the back of the cereal box?

OH, and Ferris's FIRST FAIR! Just like his mama, he was pretty nonplussed.
Let's be honest, the fair is kinda lame.

But sunglasses are not lame.

And in case you don't already know, FIRST STEPS! Ferris started walking about a month and a half ago (13 months old) and went from tentative steps to zooming around. Inexplicably, he recently started spinning around in slow circles until he's too dizzy to stand.

A video of Ferris walking, a little bit ditzy from Tylenol

As you can see, we've been busy.